This week it has been pretty hard to ignore all the news and buzz about actor Charlie Sheen. His weird antics and publicity tricks have reached millions and millions of people through newspapers, TV, radio and social media. I personally am tired of seeing the attention he’s getting, what does this really say about us humans? The senseless talk, the threats, the chain smoking, the lifestyle, anything and everything about him really bothers me quite a bit.
The thing that bothers me most is the way he has dealt with his past relationship and children.
Nobody should be exposed to the media and craziness in that way, much less moms and their kids.It’s a hard enough task being a single mom and raising a couple kids, must be a living hell having to deal with Sheen and the media coverage day in and day out.
Poor women, but then again, poor men too! As much as Charlie Sheen seems to me a quite disgusting man, I can’ t help thinking about the bad image he gives all divorced and single dads. Yes single parenthood can be harsh on moms but what about the dads? Of course most dads do not go on these weird antics but they sometimes need a little hand too. Kids naturally stick with their moms, so dads need a little help.
Let’s take Mr. Sheen’ relationship mistakes and turn them into something positive like great tips for single dads:
1. Prepare your living space and make it a home, not a house. Let your friends and family know that your space will be shared with your kids and therefore they must be respectful of this relationship. When you talk about the house with the kids, remember to use the word “ours”… our house, our kitchen, it will give them a sense of home and unity. If you like having parties, make sure you organize them when the kids are not home.
2. If you’ve been living alone for awhile, make sure you give the house a good inspection before the kids start visiting. Is it clean? It should be. Make your space comfortable and even more important, make it safe. Make a list of items and/or situations that can hurt your kids, glass furniture, sharp edges, stairs, balconies, cabinets, etc. If you have very small kids, make sure you child-proof your home.
3. If you’re a man’s man and love the leather then you’re on the right path. Leather furniture works well with kids as it’s easy to clean and quite cozy for family time. Take note though, never get upset at your kids for having messy accidents on your home furniture, kids are kids and furniture is just a material object.
4. Make sure you focus on the kid’s school activities. Arriving late to school, missing homework and forgetting their lunch are not acceptable excuses. Keep a calendar or schedule and make sure you’re on time, every time. Create a “homework space” at home and make sure that it has all the necessary supplies and enough lighting. Also, sign up for the school newsletter and make sure you’re involved in all their activities.
5. As much as your new space is “our home”, kids also need a little space of their own. Having the kids sleep on a couch or on an inflatable mattress is not safe or even fatherly! Ensure that your child has their own special place within the home, have them help you decorate it and let them pick their paint color, decorations and toys. If you have teens or older kids, one suggestion: respect their space and their relationship with friends and in return they will do the same.
6. If you have very small kids, you should know that forgetting toys or special items can create quite the drama! Make sure you have a second set of all their favorite stuff, toys, books, clothes, etc. This will not only get rid of some drama, it will also help your child feel secure during their visit.
7. Personalize your space, photos of your kids should be included in the home’s decoration. Now be careful, if you have a girlfriend or a new wife, make sure you have a good ratio of family photos around the house as this can create some jealousy. Do your kids love to draw? Always remember to post their drawings the house, this will make them a huge feeling of being at home.
8. Last but not least, give the children a sense of family and home. Don’t ignore them to watch TV, talk on your mobile phone or chat online. Family time is important so make sure that when they visit they have every ounce of your attention. Keep your house stocked with educational toys, healthy snacks, games and good books, these will keep you entertained for hours and will give you some great family activities to enjoy together and build a good parent/child relationship.
Author: Ann Brampton