Have you recently started to feel really alone? Do you ask yourself if there is something wrong with you? You might look around you and notice that everyone else has a lot of friends, gets invited to a lot of events, and is always going to killer parties. You might feel like you are the only being left out. You might feel that you always make the calls, but no one calls you. You are not alone. What we are describing is happening on a large scale in America, and it is not your fault.
In today’s age, transportation is so easy, communication is so easy. There are also all these people packed together in a close space in the bigger cities and even in smaller towns. If it is so easy to communicate and there are so many of us, how come so many of us are feeling so alone?
Society is changing. In times past, you would be friends forever with people you grew up with, families would stay close to one another, and strong, and you would expect support from those around you. Nowadays, the times are so much different. People are so distant from one another in America, family is becoming more insignificant as children typically get kicked out of the house when they are 18 and they are not supported in any way by their parents. Instead of friends being a support they are now more of a threat. What is going on in America today?
In the Old Days
In the old days you would grow up in the same town and know everyone around you closely. You would marry your girlfriend from high school, have children, and live a happy fullfilling life. You would stick to who you knew and what you knew for support your whole life. Now, people are moving all over the country, changing things around, moving jobs all the time, leaving on a dime. With so many more options, people are spreading out all over the world, and especially in the US, where their is so much space, people are moving all over from state to state, coast to coast.
Technology Driving Us Apart
You might think from an initial observation that technology is helping people become closer to one another. But now, with text messages, facebook, and the internet, it is more likely a friend will not call you on your birthday, or not even text you, all you have to do now is send a facebook message wishing “happy birthday.” In fact, it might be worse than that. There are some programs that will automatically track birthdays and automatically send facebook happy birthday messages without the person having to do anything at all! What is the world coming to? When I was in Italy a number of years back, I remember talking to a girl in the “Pronto Secorso” (Italian for ER) who told me with two jobs she couldn’t even afford rent, so she lived with her parents. Even though she was in this financial hardship, she expressed a strong liking for her family members. Maybe this lifestyle is better than what we are coming to in the US? In fact, nowadays, if you meet someone, they are not even likely to call you. You might call them, and they will simply “text” you back. Have we lost all decency in the US? Are we simply becoming slaves to technology? Where has the personal dignity gone between people? Are you just a number on a piece of paper that can be disposed of at will be anyone anywhere?
Dealing With Loneliness in Today’s Age
The real trick to making things work with people over here is by careful and picky choosing of every one of the people you associate with. If you know exactly who the people are around are, and build a relationship with them of value and understanding, then you should be able to prepare for anything that happens, and not expect more or less. It is only when you start to expect things that are not going to happen that you start to get in a lot of trouble. Do not expect friends to be so dedicated to you, they are only friends. Expect the worst, but hope for the best.