You said it, you heard it right, you were wrong, proven wrong again by your boss, by your friend, by your partner. Not a big deal you say to yourself, just moving a long with your day. Then again it happens, these same people, your friends, coworkers, even your girlfriend would not listen to you. How is it you ask yourself that some people out there seem to always dominate every encounter they have with all of their friends, all of their relatives, even their coworkers?
Would you like to be a lot better at winning arguments, and being respected? Well, I will give you the keys to these all so important topics in this article.
Steps To Winning Every Argument:
1) Only speak when you know what you are talking about.
A wise friend of mine once said to me “Do you want to know how to be right from this moment on when it comes to every single thing you say and never be wrong again?” And I was like, “how the hell is that possible?” My friend replied back and said, “If you don’t know what you are talking about, keep your mouth shut!” This really does work. When you are right, people recognize this, and when you are wrong, people also recognize this. But being looked at by someone who is accurate and right about things will earn you a lot of respect.
2) Be Consistent.
Don’t change your story around. Don’t waver from your original thoughts; stick to one belief and idea and people will start to notice. Stay consistent not only within your argument, but from argument to argument, and this also build your respect and reputation as people start to confide in you. The other great thing about consistency is that if you pull off building a good reputation, you won’t have to say anything at all in the future, people will automatically just believe you and trust you.
3) Be assertive and to the point.
No one likes talking to someone who is wishy washy. And no one really respects or believes things that a wishy washy person says. If you want your arguments to come across as effective as possible, simply speak with confidence, assertiveness, and stick to your key points. Once people see that you are firm this will also build lots of respect.
Steps To Being A Super Star In Your Own Neighborhood:
1) Make lots of friends.
The more the better, assuming these are good friends. The more connected and networked you are, the more you can get hooked up every step of the way. I used to know night club bouncers that would always let me in front of the line, for years. I used to know restaurant owners that would always hook me up by making specialized dishes no one else would get served. I also used to know about the best hot spots in town, best job opportunities, and best all around cool places due to all the networking I did.
2) Network like crazy.
This is sort of like what was mentioned for the previous rule. However, I want to emphasize that networking will always help. It will help you uncover possibilities and roads you never knew. I met some of my best friends over the years in the strangest places. I met a very close friend of mine on my elevator, I went to my University based off of a recommendation from a friend I met on the internet. You never know what might turn up.
3) Don’t ever say too much.
This is a really important one. Talking too much almost always is wrong. You will end up making yourself look like a fool in the eyes of others, putting yourself in a disadvantageous position. Never let this happen. Always stay on top of your game by saying less, and thinking more. Trust me, this works wonders. It was once said in the Chinese Dao that a wise man once said, “thou who speaks doesn’t know, and thou who doesn’t speak, knows.”