Valentine’s Day has never been my long suit. In fact, some of my slightest romantic moments have come on the day of lover’s enjoyment. One might say that I am the emperor of the Valentine’s Day Massacre. Now, of course, I never really wanted things to go that way. Often my intentions have been noble and I wanted to do right by my loved one, but then things now happen. The best laid tactics turned to mush. For instance, two weeks before I proposed to my spouse, I told her to get lost. Granted we had stopped dating 14 months earlier, but, two weeks before I proposed to her on March 1st, I told her that I was not her guy (two weeks equals 14 days; count back 14 days from 1st March and what day would it be?).
On another Valentine’s Day, I promoted a concert and lost $700 we did not have to lose. Not to remark the times I forgot to buy a gift or card or any other thing that might have given notice that I really did love her and was thinking about her. No, Valentine’s Day has often been less than a peak moment in my relationship with my spouse and lover. I am thinking that in this vast world in which I live that I am not the only one who has had problem to the right things on Valentine’s Day. This article discusses five tips on how to avoid a Valentine’s Day Breakup.
1) Write the date on every calendar you have. At house, at work place, in your mobile, your answering service, wherever you can put a sticky letter to remind you of the special day, put it there.
2) Remember that Valentines Day does not have to be about sex. The point of this particular day is to show a deep enjoyment for the one you love the most. It is about being present with that someone giving them your undivided attention; and viewing them that they mean more to you than any other person or persons on the planet. It is about listening to them and fulfilling their deepest emotional needs.
3) Take full time to plan the night. Start planning in first month. What will you buy and do? Where will you like to go with your partner? To help with this endeavor, it is wise to be listening to your mate or loved one to hear his or her deepest longings and thoughts about what a romantic night would be like. If they are not giving any clues, then ask them. It is best not to assume they want the same things you want.
4) Establish the right budget. For some loved ones, they want to be lavished with exclusive gifts, but for most, they will like simple elegance. In the case of most women, security including financial security is an significant value. Busting the bank for one night of enjoyment may lead to bigger troubles down the road.
5) Follow through. Planning to have a spectacular evening is not the same as having one. In this case, it is not the consideration that counts. Actually carrying out the plans wins the dark and the heart of your spouse or loved one. For many romantics, Valentine’s Day results in many unfulfilled opportunity Often those expectations go unrealized because of poor communication or egoism which in turn can often lead to a Valentine’s Day Massacre. This article has discussed five tips on how to have a significant Valentine’s Day experience.
Author: Denny Dubin