You said it right, you were unhappy to go to work, unhappy to be at work, and under constant anxiety at the job. You worked in a cubicle, and had done so for years. Right next to you there was one particular co worker who always kept to himself, but if it came time to discuss something, or to work with you, all hell broke loose.
This co worker would take every opportunity to point out your mistakes, make you look bad, or make jokes at your expense. This co worker would harass you whenever he could, make your work more difficult, and make working together impossible.
Your boss asked you to complete a task that your co worker worked on last year. This particular project required doing work with material that only your co worker knew about, because he was the original worker of the project. Your work could not be done until you found out certain aspects of the project only he knew. So, you go and try to talk to this difficult co worker, and lo and behold, he makes the situation even more difficult by being as curt as possible and being completely uncooperative. What once started out to be a small project is now turning into an impossible feat. Every work related question asked is returned with snarky comments, or rude remarks. All questions are answered with incomplete information.
What do you do? You try to figure out the answers on your own, thus leading to incomplete and improperly done work. Your boss is annoyed the project is taking so long and indicates that the job could have been done better. Your job is now at risk.
You hate this co worker, dread to go to work, and wish you would be doing something else. You can’t, however, you have a mortgage payment, and a wife and kid you are taking care of. If you were to quit the job you had worked at for years you would be forced onto unemployment and would not be able to afford anything anymore. You would have to move to a crappy part of town, and give up everything you had worked for. Is this the American Dream you asked yourself? Or is this American Hell?
Well, I am writing this article to let you know this situation can be fixed. You can deal with your coworker with ease with a few top secret techniques.
1) Never make small talk with the co worker.
This inevitably leads to insults, cut downs, or rude behavior from the co worker, have no small talk outside of work with him.
2) Don’t ask him for help unless absolutely necessary.
Avoid all contact that you possibly can.
3) Make sure you are as accurate as possible when giving him information he needs from you.
Don’t give your coworkers any reason to complain or come back to you and tell you about the mistakes you made. Double check your work multiple times, be firm, completely accurate, and to the point.
4) Don’t fall into their traps.
You can make your own decisions, don’t get tricked into doing the crappy work, or projects that are too complex due to their manipulation. Make all of your own decisions based on common sense, and don’t give your coworker anything to use against you.
5) Ignore him.
Who cares what he thinks or feels, don’t pay attention to his actions and you can stay calm and cool.
I hope this article can really help you. Having your own business is the most ideal because you call the shots and choose most of the time who you work with. But working at a company and dealing with difficult people is a fact of life you are going to have to deal with at some point. Keep your head up and stay strong, learn to cope with difficult situations. This can only make you stronger and in the end a better person and better employee.