Relationships take hard work, it is something that happens over time. I hear a lot of people say things such as, “I don’t want to put work into my relationship because I deserve it all.” This way of thinking is wrong and will not lead to anything positive or beneficial in your relationship. Just as in working out, or doing a good job at work, it is going to require effort and work.
Below I list a set of steps that have been proven to really improve your relationship.
Understanding & Dedication
You need to think about how you treat your partner, and how that reflects back on you. We all want to be treated with dignity, respect, and kindness; don’t forget this. When we treat others really well, it starts to reflect back on us, and this is exactly what you want. Nothing is perfect, but we need to pay attention to our own actions and how they make others feel. When we do think about our own actions, instead of placing blame, we create an environment that fosters an incredible relationship. Remember, you cannot control anyone but yourself, so if you want to make a relationship work, choose the right actions.
Schedule Special Activities With Your Partner
Remember, you are there for one another, so plan for great things. Create special times and events so you can really enjoy your time together, and really share those special moments. Without a lot of close personal time together, you will only grow further apart.
Improvement Over Blame
When problems arise, you can choose to either learn from the situation, and improve, or you can fight back and blame your partner for the disagreement or issue at hand. There are subtle ways you can learn, improve, and understand your partner when a conflict arises. Try to take the approach of understanding rather than control.
If you can’t fix the problem, or don’t have a solution, there is no point in complaining, it doesn’t lead to anything good. Not only is complaining a bad idea, but no one likes a complainer. Try to complement your partner instead of complaining about a situation. Try to make everything good by taking the good out of the situation, not the bad. Instead of “this restaurant sucks,” think about the nice atmosphere, good drinks, and good service, even if the food was bad. If your partner wants to go to that restaurant next time, suggest something else. Don’t turn a potentially great situation negative by complaining without a solution.
Don’t Be Boring
Without doing fun things in your relationship, your are bound to fail and lose one another. Stop and take some time to make your partner laugh, tell a joke, live the moment, or plan a cool, interesting activity together. Getting complacent and “acting boring” is never the right approach. Make your interactions fun so you can grow together and enjoy each other’s time.